Creative parenting skills means to give your child enough freedom to express the talents that they are good at, not what you are hoping they would be good at. As your child grows from toddlers their likes and dislike are forming. Cryptic as it may seem their play and their behavior are clues as to what they are experiencing. If your child is good at only one thing then let them show the world how well they can do that one thing. The use of their imagination and play time should be used for more than just passing time; you should observe their talents and developing skills to help you to begin shaping their young minds. Your child’s work is their play; your child’s communication is their play. Encouraging your child to use their minds and the things around them to create and imagine during their playtime. Reading to them will help foster their creativity. It also allows them to ask you question as silly as they may seem which may show you how they perceive the world around them.
When reading to your child they may not understand a story very well and may cause them to ask the biggest question they know to ask, “why?” Children all well known for asking “why?” at least a thousand times a day. As a parent this is the biggest open ended and loaded question there ever was. This is your cue to help them discover why. When they begin to do this, it is perfectly OK to say, I don’t know why, but we can figure it out together. If you let your child take control of the conversation and let them explain to you why something is as it is, no matter what it may be, you will get a very long fictional tale usually with a happy ending. You job is not to correct their perception throughout their explanation, but to take note as to how they perceive the world around them. As your children they are debriefing you’re as to the status of the world as the see it.
Helene Goldnadel says that telling your child that you lack information on a subject is OK, as long as you follow up with the information sooner or later. They will observe the way you search for the information and the questions that you ask to find it. You may learn something that you did not know yourself. In your journeys of helping your child stretch their imagination, you will also come across more resources and tools to help and guide you in your efforts. There is no such thing as a defiant child, right? Ha! Bet you wish that was true. Life would be so much easier if your child came with an owner’s manual. Believe it or not they did.
The owner’s manual for each child is within the child. From their first breath of air to the first time they said, “no” “no” “no”, they have been reading it to you word for word. The trouble is, is what does it mean how do you crack the code. Observation is a great way. Continue to learn and grow as a parent as you child continues to learn and grow into a person. Observation and communication are just two ways to grow as a parent. Showing your child respect will help in areas of their self-respect. Most important is know what they are telling you from toddler to childhood and knowing how to crack the code, knowing how to decipher the owner’s manual within them. Whether you choose to reach for the information or not, is up to you.
When your child is behaving poorly, (at least in your eyes, from their point of view their behavior is right where they want it to be) you may have a communication breakdown on your hands. They are trying to tell you something; you are trying to lay down the law, apples and orange. Your best option is to be the bigger person continue to learn and to grown as a parent. With use of the Internet, you can discover the tools and resource you have at hand. An investment in your education as a parent can only help your children on the long run.