A child with a Can-Do Attitude:
- Accomplishes more goals
- Is happier
- Gets good grades in school
- Has a better friendship
- Has less conflict and stress in life
- Is more successful at whatever she or he tries
A Can-Do Attitude is truly knowing that you can accomplish your dreams and desires in life through energy, attention and effort
When a child deeply understands that effort, energy and attention are the keys to reaching his goals, he is not defeated by obstacles. Instead he is energized by what he will learn from solving problems. He knows it will propel him onto success. Because of this, he is not afraid to tackle the difficult challenges that bring him the results he wants.
There are several skills involved in helping a child develop a Can-Do Attitude. One important method is to teach your child she has the power to accomplish her goals. You can do that by how you praise your child.
When you praise stable traits, like intelligence or personality, you teach a child that she is limited by those traits.
For example, if you were to say to a child, “You’re so smart, you don’t even have to study.” Then, if she came across something that was difficult and she had to study to understand, she would think, “Oh, I must not be so smart after all because I have to study.” This child would shy away from any challenges that might cause her to have to study, severely limiting what she learns.
On the other hand, if you praise her efforts, progress, or strategy, she learns those are what makes the difference and she has the power to direct her efforts.
For example, if you said, “You got an A on your book report. All that thinking, research and rewrites paid off.” Then, if she did poorly, she would realize she needed to work at it a little more. Instead of giving up, or shying away from challenges, she would throw herself into it even more.
That’s one key skill you can start today.