Child discipline is a crucial and emotional issue for parents of elementary children. We worry endlessly about our children misbehaving and how we should handle it. Constant behavior problems make us feel frustrated and angry. We detest having to punish our children. Learning how to efficiently discipline our children is an important skill that all parents must learn. Discipline is totally different from punishment. Instead, discipline has something more to do with teaching, and it involves teaching our children right from wrong, to respect the rights of others, and the difference between acceptable and unacceptable actions. Our aim is to help develop a child that will feel secure, loved, self-confident, self-disciplined and knows how to control his emotions & behavior. We want to raise a child that knows how to handle the frustrations and complications of everyday life.
Many of us need to learn better and more effective ways of disciplining our children. The kind of discipline that could help our child develop self-control and respect for authority. The two extremes of children that are spoiled, and those that are brutally disciplined, both face increased risk of emotional and behavioral problems. Just learning one new approach to discipline, as a parent, change our child’s development. If you are having problems disciplining your child, you should not berate yourself too much. Its far more important to remember to be flexible, and able to implement new ideas until something works. Remember that you may not be doing anything wrong. All children are unique and have different moods; therefore developmental levels and approach of discipline that may work with other children may not work with yours.
Children are unique and parents are no different. As you choose a discipline strategy, you’ll learn to adapt it so that it suits your family. Trying new ideas can be the most important skill you develop as a parent.
You should also understand that your behavior when disciplining your child will help to shape what your child sees as appropriate behavior. If you yield after your child repeatedly argues, becomes violent or has a temper tantrum, then he will learn, at an unconscious level, that you’ll always give in if he pushes hard enough. On the flip-side, if you are steadfast and consistent with sticking to your guns, then he’ll realize that it’s useless to fight with you.
According to Helene Goldnadel being consistent in your methods of discipline and punishment is the single most effective way to develop well-behaved children. This also applies to caregivers. Children will always to test their limits, and if you are inconsistent, you are encouraging more misbehavior.
Reminders about Discipline:
- Stay calm and be patient. Never lose your temper in front of your child. Walk away if you are about to lose it.
- Don’t give too much criticism, and keep it constructive. Nobody likes too much criticism.
- Give praise, but avoid over-doing it.
- Avoid dwelling on the bad behavior. Point out positive behavior and express how much you like it.
- Never use physical punishment. This will only lead to resentment and hate.
- Give rewards for good behavior, not only consequences for bad behavior.
- Know the difference between rewards and bribes. Your child should do what is right because it is right and not only because he is being bribed.
- Be a role model. Your child imitates you without consciously trying to. It’s simply natural behavior. So be aware of how you act.
- Provide your child with a safe environment where he feels safe and loved.